Ah, mean people. Unfortunately,
you can find them everywhere you turn, and it's futile to run
and hide; because sooner or later, one or two or seven of them
will catch up with you. So you might us well buck up and learn
how to deal with mean people. It might be a struggle
to do that; but if you finally learn how to deal with mean people
without losing your cool, then you're pretty much ready to handle
Facing mean people on a regular
basis can definitely sap the life out of anyone, so you have
to master the art of rolling with the punches, or even the art
of ignoring what they say.
This doesn't have to involve
getting into a shouting match or a fistfight with them to drive
your point home. Here are some things you need to keep in mind
when it comes to mean people.
When someone is being mean to
you-or to the world at large, for that matter-you should realize
that the problem lies with him, and not with you.
If the mean person you're having
problems with is a friend of yours, then it may be more challenging
to handle this situation. What you need to do, first and foremost,
is to avoid becoming his clone. Just because he's being mean
doesn't mean you also have to behave the same way.
If he's directing his meanness
towards you, then it's time for you to back off and disappear
for a while. Just wait for him to realize how horribly he's
been treating you. When it happens again, you can confront him
about his behaviorů and hopefully, this will be his wake-up
If the mean individual's tactic
is to crush everyone's self-esteem to smithereens, you can calmly
face this challenge by having a strong sense of self-esteem.
Only by having a strong sense of self and confidence will you
be able to keep from cracking under the tormentor's treatment
and will serve you well if you want to train yourself on how
to deal with mean people.
You can disarm mean people by
being overwhelmingly nice to them. As they say, you can kill
'em with kindness. This will definitely catch mean people off-guard.
It will be hard to keep your cool, but it's worth it to see
the mean person become confused by your behavior.
Finally, come up with some witty
comebacks. Part of the mean person's arsenal includes sarcastic
barbs and attacks, and just general insults. So if you have
a general idea what things he usually says, plan your lines
to prepare for the next time he chooses to direct his insults
at you. If your reply is snappy enough, the mean person might
either be stunned into silence or hurl further abuse at you,
but you'll know that you managed to defuse him. Your action
might even inspire other people to stand up to the mean person.
Figuring out how to deal with
mean people is something that we all have to learn throughout
life, but with a little patience, and even some sense of humor,
you can successfully rally through the challenge.
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