First off, assure yourself that
all people - no exceptions - experience fear. It is a very normal
feeling that confronts people whenever they face possible rejection,
change, the unknown, or any possible negative outcome. But what
differentiates successful people who get what they want is that
they feel the fear and face it head on. They refuse to
be paralyzed by fear and instead face it head-on, often getting
astounding results. If you feel the fear and face it head
on , you will fully appreciate what this means.
Just stop thinking and worrying,
and just do it! Ask for that raise; ask that person you like
out for a date; ask for help - ask for anything you want! Author
Diana von Welanetz Wentworth says, "It doesn't matter what
you are thinking or what fear you have, if you just do it. Action
is the only thing that matters. Whenever I put myself in a position
where I have taken action, even though I've been afraid, I always
feel extra good."
If you are still hesitating,
ask yourself, "Why am I doing this in the first place?"
Picture the outcome you want, and you will get that extra boost
to face your fear. Why are you asking for a raise? Why
are you asking this person out? Why are you asking for help?
Is not what you are asking for worth it? Tell yourself - your
fear is nothing compared to what you are going to achieve once
you just do it! Feel the fear and face it head on.
You can start out small to build
up confidence for the big things. A good exercise would be to
ask seemingly stupid questions. Researcher Michael Hesse was
advised by his therapist to ask "stupid" questions
but what happened was people did not think he was stupid and
were actually eager to help and answer his question.
You may never be able to fully
overcome your fears but if you feel the fear and face it
head on, doors will open for you and the results may just
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