1. Find out the root cause
of your low self-esteem.
Usually, the root comes from
how they and their families interacted. Once you find out about
where your low self-esteem comes from, you can now move on to
the next step.
2. Go through the process
of coming to terms with your inner conflicts.
When you learn how you became
the insecure person that you are, go through the process of
coming to terms with your inner conflicts. Face your fears head-on.
Admitting and accepting that you are a wounded person is very
3. Decide not to live like
When you decide to start healing,
now starts the real meat of the journey. You have to constantly
decide not to live like a victim, to choose not to see that
the world is out to offend you. Let the offenses slide; let
the pain slide.
Just acknowledge that people
have hurt or offended you, then move on and focus back to your
life. Remember that how you perceive life is a matter of choosing
the thoughts you subscribe to.
When you do decide to stop believing
and living like a victim, reinforce it. Instead of telling yourself
that you are ugly, or believing when your boss tells you how
incompetent you are, confront yourself with the facts.
Does the mirror say you look
like Quasimodo? For an objective assessment, find a friend who
loves you and believes in you. Are you truly incompetent? Get
a measurable yardstick. How much output can you make in a week?
Does it confirm to your so-called "incompetence"?
This life is not meant to be
lived in the dumps. Stick to reality, come to grips with the
past, walk on, and succeed in breaking the chain of